Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Monday, March 18, 2013

Family Night

The lazy way. $1 at Harmon's.

Monday, February 4, 2013

Sorry

My apologies to all those who are automatically sent blog updates from me. I accidentally copied my blog email on a text to my father-in-law! But here is an excuse to tell you all we are doing well and I still hope to start updating more often toward the end of February when things calm down a bit. Of course you have all heard that before…

Love to all!

Saturday, January 26, 2013

Happy family birthday to us!

Sunday, December 23, 2012

Merry Christmas 2012

Well here we are just before Christmas and I'm just slowing down to realize I haven't taken time to reach out to friends and family this holiday. This is mainly because David and I took a much needed vacation, the likes of which we never have done, to Kauai for a week, and we got home just a few days ago. It was a gift from my very generous employer, and it was a very special, amazing experience.

I hope to write more about the details and post a few pictures, but that will wait for a future post. I know this is sent automatically to many of my friends and family, and I wanted to tell you how much I appreciate all of you and how blessed I feel to have so many people to love and who I know love me.

The end of this year marks the end of a very long, stressful time for our family. I would not have believed a few years ago that the end of 2012 would find us in our own lovely little home, David working his dream job, all the children doing so well in school and turning out okay despite my inadvertent efforts toward the contrary, and that I am so blessed to have such a wonderful husband who has been my best friend and companion for 24 years. In fact, we celebrate a marriage of 20 years this January.

We have been extremely blessed, and we have been taught a lot, even though much of it has come the hard way--we are slow learners sometimes. I come into this new year with a new desire to be really converted to Christ and to make Him the center of my heart and home. My desire is there, but I need much more diligent to bring about the change after 40 years of more or less selfish habits.

David and I were blessed to hear David Bednar speak recently, and he gave a very powerful witness that our only key to real happiness is to overcome selfishness and truly follow Christ. The adversary would have us turn inward and attend to our own needs, and lick our own wounds, and pity ourselves in our time of trial. But the Savior showed the example and continually turned outward, even in his greatest suffering. It seems like so much to ask when we are suffering, but the Savior knows the truth, that only in losing our life in loving service to others do we find ourselves.

I see now that only when we become a vessel of the love of God are all of our inner holes truly filled. No amount of personal attention, from ourselves or others, can fill any emptiness inside us, but when we allow ourselves to love others and to be God's hands, His love fills us as it moves through us to others, and only then are we made whole.

I can't say I am living this principle very well yet, but I'm only just coming to see it and understand it's truth. But this is my goal for the coming year, to start living the principle more fully.

I wish all of you a very Merry Christmas and pray each of you will grow closer to the Savior over the coming days and years and rely on His strength to help you in the trials that come.

All my love to you and your families,

Valerie

Thursday, September 27, 2012

Happy #11 Birthday to Sophie!

Go ahead and judge me, but she is here instead of fourth period at school. With David's intense work schedule, this is the only time I can have some one-on-one mommy daughter time. Happy bday to my lovely young woman!

Favorite color: light purple
Favorite food: fish, rice, asparagus and mango with French bread
Favorite activities: Cheerleading, dancing, ice-skating, singing, shopping, cooking, drawing, reading, looking in the mirror
Favorite thing to cook: cookies and cake and ice cream sandwiches
Favorite music: music theater and pop, artists like Taylor Swift, Justin Bieber, Selena Gomez, Bella Thorne, and zandea (?)
Favorite movies: Mamma Mia, Grease, Hairspray, Good Luck Charlie
Favorite books: Dork diaries, Secret language of girls, boxcar children, Twilight series
Favorite class: musical theater
Favorite teacher: Mr. Langlois and Mrs. Gabbitas
What she wants to be when she grows up: a star in Broadway musicals or a famous singer
Goals for improvement in the next year: dancing, singing, and grades

Of course mom is hoping most for the latter, although she is doing much better.

I LOVE YOU SOPHIE!!

Monday, September 3, 2012

Ben and Mom at Flaming Gorge IV

Red Ridge visitors center. This is really a wonderful place.

Ben and Mom at Flaming Gorge III

The Dam is amazing. 420 feet of water on one side and 480 feet of concrete on the other.

Ben and Mom at Flaming Gorge II

Ben and Mom at Flaming Gorge I

Brigham City Temple Open House

A beautiful temple--the spirit was amazing and the kids really tuned into it. David had to work but my mom could go.

Experimenting with instagram

Because I'm late to the game. But my kids are lovely.

Monday, August 27, 2012

Flaming Gorge!

On a road trip alone with my newly minted teenager!

Monday, August 20, 2012

A new phase.

Thanks to Siri and a little bit more spare time, maybe I will do better at my family journal otherwise known as my blog. You'll have to forgive dictation mistakes, I'm talking and multitasking.

Last Friday was my last day of full-time employment. I have given my company until October 31 to keep me on as an employee, and I am technically still at my normal salary and have to cover whatever needs to be covered, but I can work the hours I have and go in only when I have to. This means I can be with my kids anytime they are not in school.

Even better, my company is going to continue to use me in the future. I am starting an independent marketing firm along with a fantastic designer that I met through this job. We together have a lot of contacts, and although I am not completely ready, work is already coming in! So I will still do things for my company as their agency of record, primarily strategic planning and creative production, as well as event planning for their annual conferences. I hope to find some good subcontractors so I can keep my hours down and really keep the commitment that I have made to my family to always be available whenever they are out of school/work.

So today is my first day where all my kids are in school! Ben doesn't start for two weeks, but he went to scout camp early this morning.

It definitely is a new phase of life.

If I really do some soul-searching, I need to be honest with myself that the chaos and the intense work schedule of the past years has been necessary, but also a very handy excuse for not accomplishing my goals, parenting the way I should, and truly investing in my home and family in a way that would help us all. There is part of me that is nervous that now I have no excuses.

If I go all in on the homefront, and everything turns out horribly, there is nothing else to point the finger to--it is all on me. But it always was, whether I accepted it or not. When I was homeschooling and people would say, "I can't take on the responsibility for all of my child's education!" I would think, you already have that responsibility, whether you delegate part of it or not. I still feel that way, although I do delegate much of it myself now. I am still the one who is responsible at the end of the day.

So really my responsibilities have not changed, I just feel the concern that I will fall short. Franchise marketing comes more easily to me than being a mother in Israel, which I guess is a little bit unfortunate, since what I am best at is so much less important. But thankfully, I know that the Lord is with me in this, and with him as a senior companion, I can have trust that it will turn out as it should.

Sophie's first day of junior high!

So our charter school is kindergarten through ninth, and they start the junior high in sixth grade, so my little girl is growing up too fast! I am so proud of how hard she is working in cheer, and how diligent she has been even though it is so physically taxing. (Let's hope she can be just as diligent in her grades this year!)

She turns only 11 next month, but I feel like I have a full-blown teenager on my hands already! She is a gorgeous little sweetie and I'm lucky to be her mom.

First day of school, second year at Jefferson Academy

We are lucky to have this great charter school to go to! Noah and Lucy got settled into their new classes. Noah is in second grade, Lucy is in first. She is excited about full-day school.

The school used to be called Oquirrh Mountain charter school and emphasizes American Heritage and history, using classical and core knowledge curriculums. We have been very happy with our first year here. They had to change their name, since there is a school out actually near the Oquirrh mountains with the same name, whereas our school only has a view of the Oquirrh mountains. But Jefferson is a nice namesake.

Oma came out of retirement to be the school interim director, which was a fun surprise! Oma is aunt Jessika's mom, and Oma is grandma in Dutch, since Oma is from the Netherlands. My kids love going to her house for Easter egg dying and our Halloween pumpkin carving parties every year! She has been a school principal for a very long time and had a full year of a retirement break before coming to help our school while they search for their new director.

Here's to a great year!

Saturday, August 18, 2012

Back to School!

School starts Monday for Lucy, Noah and Sophie so we are here at Clark's old fashioned barbershop to take Noah's lengthy locks. Yesterday I finished full time employment and an insane few weeks at work, so today will be a whirlwind back to school prepping extravaganza!

Monday, July 30, 2012

Latest family pic

Good changes are in the wind, soon will be back to blogging....

Thursday, May 3, 2012

I found this pic of David I had on the wall throughout his mission, crazy, huh?

And here is a pic of our fam from August 2010, not too recent, but we should have it up here.


I'm again overdue for an update--it looks like I'm quarterly now, so much for my 2011 resolution of weekly posts, but I will continue to strive.

I read my last post and here is what has changed.  First, I am now the Vice President of Marketing and Franchise Development (Sales) for my company, although between you and me, rarely a day passes that I don't wish I was still just a lowly Marketing Director.  However, it sure does help to get staff and vendors being more responsive to have those two little letters after one's name. I took this job 8 months ago as a stop gap, but it has turned into a huge responsibility.  And since it is a large, yet very flat organization, and the two owners want to start pulling back, their next in command, my boss, and my brand new counterpart, the VP of Ops, and myself are responsible for almost everything that happens within the company.  I was working 80+ hours a week, with my top week during our annual conference in Scottsdale where I worked 120 hours, including one 42 hour shift without sleep!  For a while you go on adrenaline, but then it gets old, and you just don't want people to know you are working like a madwoman--it stops being a badge of honor and starts being the badge of a sucker.  

After that February conference I was given three new staff members, who have been a big, help, but I still find myself very behind after 10-hour days.  Monday I got one hour of sleep preparing for a presentation, and it's hard not to just wonder what it is all for.  There are 200 offices with 1500 employees who rely on me to do my job, and there is and was just so much work to be done just to get the basics done, and I'm well-suited to the job and like it when I'm not too tired, but there is nothing of lasting importance. But that is what a corporate job is, I guess.  I need to stay there until we've caught up from the chaos of the last few years.

As I write this I am actually in San Diego touring hotels to decide which to use for our next convention.  Talk about wined and dined!  I can never complain about my job again.  You know you've arrived when you get off an airplane and a limo driver is holding a card with your name on it!

David has gotten his dream job and is now an attorney for the Federal Defender.  He is based out of the Phoenix office and travels down there once a month or so.  He teaches priesthood.  I teach RS and do the ward newsletter once a month.

Ben is doing fine in 7th grade at the local Jr. High--he likes it and enjoys trumpet and plans on summer band and possibly jazz band in the fall.  He's a good, enterprising kid who works hard and primarily spends his money on longboard improvements.

Sophie is in 5th trying out for cheer this week, as she goes to a charter school that has a middle-school structure for the 6-9 graders.  She has been enjoying dance and tumbling.  She's sweet but has been very moody and temperamental lately, I'm gearing up for puberty.

Noah is a sweetie who is wrapping up 1st grade and just enjoys the simple things--toy cars, the trampoline, snacks, and the rare dinner that he doesn't hate.  He is fun to snuggle.

Lucy has all sorts of opinions and is generally fun to have around.  She's finishing up Kindergarten and has had a good year.  Both her and Noah are about the same level in reading (in part due to neglectful working parents).  She also enjoys dance and tumbling wants to switch to ballet.

I love these kids so much and want so much to give them all they need to be happy and enjoy life.  I rely heavily on the Lord to help me with this, as it appears to be a very complicated job.

So, after ten years we are finally out of the constant drama and chaos and in to "normal."  I'm working hard on gratitude, joy and peace and relying more on the Savior rather than my own very mortal self.  I see so many tender mercies in my life and am hopeful for a bright future.

I really will try to post more often.  I actually started this post a month ago--that tells you about how things are going!